Recognizing the Chronically Unhappy

In "The 48 Laws of Power," Robert Greene presents a thought-provoking idea: emotional states can be as infectious as physical ailments. By attempting to rescue someone mired in despair, you may inadvertently invite disaster into your own life. The unfortunate often attract misfortune, and they can easily pull others down with them.

This truth is often realized too late: the person who is struggling may not truly wish to be saved; instead, they might want to drag you into their pit of despair.

This is the essence of what I term the "chronically unhappy." They are unresponsive to help, as their discomfort has become their identity and a convenient reason to bring others down with them.

Temporary Solace, Lasting Pain

When we experience pain, we often seek companionship with those who share our struggles. In my own journey, I found solace among individuals who also faced challenges. They seemed to understand my plight better than anyone else, creating a false sense of comfort that ultimately deepened my own struggles.

Despite their seemingly supportive presence, I realized that I was merely sinking deeper into a shared misery. None of us genuinely sought a way out; we preferred sympathy over the daunting reality of self-accountability.

Associating with someone who shares your burdens can be detrimental. Instead of rising together, you may find yourselves spiraling deeper into despair, becoming resentful of the world for what you can only achieve through personal effort.

Stunted Growth Through Association

Interacting with individuals who constantly complain can lead to adopting their limiting beliefs. Their struggles can hinder your own potential, dragging you down into their depths.

I remember a time filled with excitement and ambition, eagerly sharing my aspirations with those close to me. Yet, their dismissive reactions and critical questions extinguished my enthusiasm, leaving me feeling small and ashamed. I internalized their negativity, convinced that my dreams were unrealistic.

However, it became clear that I was contaminated by their limitations—a person who had buried their aspirations under the illusion of normalcy. The perspectives held by others are often no more valid than our own, and their beliefs need not dictate our realities.

The Rudeness of Ghosting

Chronically unhappy individuals can stifle our growth, preventing us from exploring new opportunities and maximizing our potential. They can serve as a temporary comfort while simultaneously dragging us deeper into despair. This, in my view, is the ultimate form of rudeness.

At times, the healthiest choice may be to distance ourselves from such individuals. While communication is valuable, it is only effective if both parties are willing to engage.

Should we abandon those who are struggling? Absolutely not. Every individual deserves compassion (preferably from professionals), as they may be undergoing legitimate pain. However, we must recognize that their suffering does not grant them the right to harm us.

Ultimately, their struggles are their responsibility, just as ours are ours. Thus, we must act responsibly by distancing ourselves from those who seek to impose their pain on us.

The first video, "7 Reasons Why You Get Ghosted By Clients (And What to Do About It)," discusses common reasons behind being ghosted in client relationships, providing insights on how to manage these situations effectively.

The second video, "Secure People Do THIS When They're Ghosted," explores the healthy coping mechanisms employed by emotionally secure individuals when faced with being ghosted.