The Worthiness of Every Child: A Journey Towards Self-Love
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Understanding Self-Criticism
How frequently do you find yourself thinking: - “Things could have been better!” - “I’m such a failure!” - “I knew you wouldn’t succeed!” - “What did I tell you?” - “What can I gain from you?” - “Don’t even think about it!”
In transactional analysis, this negative self-talk is often linked to the "critical Parent" voice, which tells us, without empathy or kindness, that we are unworthy of love just as we are. Feelings of self-dissatisfaction, guilt, uncertainty, and self-criticism are formidable challenges that often stem from our early years.
Attachment Theory and Its Significance
Currently, attachment theory stands out as one of the most well-researched frameworks regarding human psychological growth. From the moment of birth, the connection between an infant and their caregiver, typically the mother, fosters emotional bonds that significantly influence the ability to form and sustain strong relationships throughout life. This relationship also helps cultivate a nurturing internal voice, serving as a model for the "nurturing Parent."
It is widely accepted that responsive actions by a primary caregiver contribute to the development of Secure Attachment. Such behaviors encompass meeting the child's needs and accurately interpreting their signals. Conversely, when a child's needs are overlooked, or when a caregiver exhibits erratic behavior or overwhelming stimulation, the child may experience frustration, leading to an UNRELIABLE ATTACHMENT style.
When the fundamental belief in being loved and accepted is compromised, children learn to develop certain behaviors to "earn" parental affection. Some individuals may strive for perfection and compliance, while others might seek validation through defiance and rebellion.
Recognizing and Transforming Internal Voices
How can you identify these internal dialogues and work towards transforming them? What steps can you take to genuinely appreciate yourself and offer support in various situations? Is it possible to alter the patterns established in childhood?
We will delve into these topics and more on December 11 during a therapeutic group session. Alongside my colleague Victoria Sapegina (Gestalt and art therapist), we will guide you in exploring your childhood attachment experiences and establishing a deeper connection with yourself and your "inner Child."
In this touching video titled "Every child, expected or not, is worthy of love and life❤️," we explore the inherent value of every child and the unconditional love they deserve.
The video "HONEST VULNERABLE MAN worthy of LOVE" invites viewers to reflect on vulnerability and the importance of love in our lives, emphasizing that everyone deserves acceptance and compassion.